The Wears and Tears of Passion♠

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This that good love boy, you ain’t know?

When you have a passion for something or someone you go hard for it, and I mean really, really hard for it because it’s what you believe in, right?

It’s kind of resembles the reason you get out of bed, the reason you smile. It feeds your soul and gives you hope, it gives you a purpose to live…

Passion:

  • any powerful or compelling emotion or feeling as love or hate.
  • a strong amorous feeling or desire; love; adore.
  • strong and barely controllable emotion

See, the thing about passion is that, although its impeccable to feel when it’s being reciprocated well and it’s being embraced, it can also be dangerous and devastating  when something falls short in the equation of it reaching its full capability.

I know you all know the saying: “Too much of anything isn’t good for you.” right?

Well, in this case, it applies more than ever.

Passion, depending on the strength level of the person who is supposed to be receiving it, can come off “too strong”. So much so, that you’ll start getting comments such as:

“You’re crazy, you’re psycho, or you’re doing too much, you’re too much, and your overbearing”. 

When you get these reactions from people, you as the passionate being that you are, you start to really believe those things that people tell you and call you.

You start to believe that because the ones that you’ve been dealing with thus far cannot understand your powerful emotion, that you’re in the wrong. You’ll also start to blame yourself for everyone else pushing themselves away from you and keeping their distance.

But, the good news is: I know from personal and recent experience that this is not completely true, and you need to just change your perspective and direction a little bit.

Look at it like this, the issue is not the sole fact of you being passionate but it’s more of knowing when, who ,where, what, why, and how to release it. Passion is a gift and a curse, you feel deeply and a lot of the time it slaps you in the face.

It also reverts back to the concept of: Time.

Yes, I know!!  It gets on my nerves too, but it’s so apparent in all aspects of life that it just can’t be ignored.

Passion is amazing, passion is rare, and not many have it. But because of this fact, only few have it it’s easily misunderstood, rejected, and shunned. So when using it, make sure you thoroughly assess the situation and the people first. Spread droplets of your passion to begin with to test the waters.

This caution will do you good, believe me!

This goes especially for women. Due to us being the magical and majestic beings in many ways and forms that we are just naturally, we’re stronger and more receptive than any other species, specifically the male one. lol

“Don’t ever dim your light to make others in the room comfortable, but humbly shine even brighter.”

-Chántelle Agbro

The average person is going to fear what they don’t understand and you have to understand that that has nothing to do with you, but everything to do with them, so let it be.

You’ll find that when releasing your passion because of its deep roots with love it’s damn near impossible to stop when it starts to flow. This is where it gets tricky all over again because although it’s not your intention, it can and will easily be mistaken for force, which then can put you in a compromising situation.

No one wants that.

It’s okay that some don’t receive what you pour out because it’s a sign that growth is needed and we all can embrace the benefits of improving.

I’ve come to the clear realization that I really just have to embrace this life and all these talents, qualities, traits, and characteristics that GOD himself has instilled in me, unapologetically.

When I do that, nothing will be too much for me.

Nothing will seem as frustrating.

Nothing will seem as confusing.

Believing and trusting that what you prayed for will eventually come to pass trumps all things!

GOD trumps all, as well as his love and his timing.

“Include everything as you embrace this GOD life and you will receive GOD’s everything.”

Mark 11:24

Reminders:

  1. Nothing will happen before its time.
  2. Everything is in divine order.
  3. Be mindful of where you pour your passion.

“When it flowing it’s GOD, when it’s forcing its US.”

And as hard as it can be sometimes, just let GOD flow, trust me!], he got YOU!

Have a phenomenal week babies!

-Love Telley

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Decisions ¿

Hellooooooooo All!

We’re finally in the fall season and oh how I’ve missed it!

October is here and I hope you all are staying nice and cozy in your designated areas but also keeping in mind that you need to stay on your toes regarding the synchronization with yourself and your actions in these seasons of becoming wonderful!

It is very easy to let things slip and slide in between the cracks during the fall/winter seasons because it seems as though things are moving at a slower pace (which they might be), but slow progress, is still progress people. So keep on, keeping on!

Also, put a reminder on your phones that my first BOOK is in the making and it is coming together well! It will be published by next fall, so look out for that launching event and for me to reveal the name!!

Now, on to more juicy stuff for the month!

I have a lot of thoughts regarding the topic of decisions.

Making decisions is seriously the worst/best thing you can ever do, in my opinion. I wouldn’t be surprised if majority of my readers disagreed with that statement because it is the unanimous belief that deciding is one of the hardest things that you can do.

However, deciding selfishly is easy (hence is why most people do it), but deciding selflessly is very, very challenging and it is a test of faith.

By nature, humans are selfish but the extent to how selfish someone can be is dependent on the other factors that influence a person’s character.

For example, I am in my 20’s now and most of the moves and decisions I make in life are made selfishly at this point in time. These are my years for that selfishness. It’s kind of hard sometimes because it requires me to disregard some of the opinions from people who love me and have supported me since day one, but it’s not always a bad thing to figure things out through your own judgement.

*mental note*

I’m constantly torn between “Treat others how you want to be treated and treat others how they treat you”.

I’ve been screwed over numerous times, so much so, that it makes me literally numb to the actual act of deciding to only care about myself, because it’s more like a given, as if it is the only option I have. But I am a firm believer that there is a time and place for everything.

I think someone can be selfish now in order to be the most selfless person later…

It’s a process, trust it.

Remember: There is a time for everything in which things fall into place. You’re usually never as ready as you think you are anyways (this is the hard truth that I’m struggling with currently).

Deciding isn’t easy (which is probably why I gravitate towards it) but it speaks to your tolerance as a person. It isn’t always black and white and it isn’t always convenient but it builds on your endurance as an individual. Especially, if you are not taking the easy way around whatever the situation is at hand, it makes you stronger, appreciative, and more deserving of everything you attain.

“The bad news is,

nothing lasts forever.

the good news is,

nothing lasts forever…”

-thegoodquote

I never understood why people desire to take the easy way out. It doesn’t even make sense because you are settling, which is unacceptable to me because I think everyone is capable of taking over the world, lol.

Then again, not everyone is brave in their thoughts, let alone in their actions.

“I make the mistake of assuming everyone is out here to be the best version of themselves.”

-Dauviore

I emphasize “themselves” because people want to be the best version of what already exist.

For example, I was in a meeting not too long ago and we were having a discussion about the “laws of the land” in modern society and a few of the stupid trends and ideologies that we identified as dominantly influential are as follows (please tell me if you agree/disagree):

  1. No one wants to go to school.
  2. No one wants to work for anything.
  3. Everyone wants to be lyrically and musically talented.
  4. Everyone wants to change their major.
  5. No one wants to be themselves, which is authentic and the only real thing you have at the end of the day.

All the things listed above are the definition of NOISE.

No one wants to stick anything out anymore and that’s why this generation is so empty/lost/impatient/ignorant and all the above, honestly. We make it seem like it’s such a lame thing to love, care, and be vulnerable with one another, when in fact that is exactly why we were all put on this earth!

Yes, believe it or not, and contrary to what you might think and witness on a daily basis, we were not put here to be hateful, heartless, careless, and envious of one another.

I mean don’t you know,

 “How you get them, is how you lose them.”

Note: If you get it quickly, you will lose it even quicker. Stop rushing.

I needed to tell someone that.

“There is beauty in the struggle.”

– J. Cole

I don’t know about any of you out there but I know for a fact that I don’t want anything that comes too quickly. It’s suspect to me, there is no substance, mystery or value in it because it was presented in no time.

I hate when people say: “You have it all together.” or  “I’m sorry that I’m not as focused as you are.” or “Not everyone can be as perfect as you…”

Like whaaaaaaaaaat are you talking about?

“To me it’s not even about having it together, but rather about where your mindset is regardless of your struggle.”

-Kelanji Mushala

People will only perceive your being to be “perfect” because it’s what you allow them to see not necessarily because it’s the actual reality of how you feel. You could actually be torn apart inside but you keep that to yourself… because truth is most people don’t care.

Comparing is not the answer and I’ve mentioned this before, just focus on being better than you were 10 minutes ago.

“In any given moment we are given two options: to step forward into growth or to step back into safety.”

– Abraham Maslow

Never allow anyone else to make you feel less about yourself because you’ve decided to stay mindful of where you’re going and who you’re becoming daily.

“Entrepreneurship is living a few years of your life like most people won’t, so you can live the rest of your life like most people can’t.

 -thegoodquote

This is my decision. What’s yours?

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