The Wears and Tears of Passion♠

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This that good love boy, you ain’t know?

When you have a passion for something or someone you go hard for it, and I mean really, really hard for it because it’s what you believe in, right?

It’s kind of resembles the reason you get out of bed, the reason you smile. It feeds your soul and gives you hope, it gives you a purpose to live…

Passion:

  • any powerful or compelling emotion or feeling as love or hate.
  • a strong amorous feeling or desire; love; adore.
  • strong and barely controllable emotion

See, the thing about passion is that, although its impeccable to feel when it’s being reciprocated well and it’s being embraced, it can also be dangerous and devastating  when something falls short in the equation of it reaching its full capability.

I know you all know the saying: “Too much of anything isn’t good for you.” right?

Well, in this case, it applies more than ever.

Passion, depending on the strength level of the person who is supposed to be receiving it, can come off “too strong”. So much so, that you’ll start getting comments such as:

“You’re crazy, you’re psycho, or you’re doing too much, you’re too much, and your overbearing”. 

When you get these reactions from people, you as the passionate being that you are, you start to really believe those things that people tell you and call you.

You start to believe that because the ones that you’ve been dealing with thus far cannot understand your powerful emotion, that you’re in the wrong. You’ll also start to blame yourself for everyone else pushing themselves away from you and keeping their distance.

But, the good news is: I know from personal and recent experience that this is not completely true, and you need to just change your perspective and direction a little bit.

Look at it like this, the issue is not the sole fact of you being passionate but it’s more of knowing when, who ,where, what, why, and how to release it. Passion is a gift and a curse, you feel deeply and a lot of the time it slaps you in the face.

It also reverts back to the concept of: Time.

Yes, I know!!  It gets on my nerves too, but it’s so apparent in all aspects of life that it just can’t be ignored.

Passion is amazing, passion is rare, and not many have it. But because of this fact, only few have it it’s easily misunderstood, rejected, and shunned. So when using it, make sure you thoroughly assess the situation and the people first. Spread droplets of your passion to begin with to test the waters.

This caution will do you good, believe me!

This goes especially for women. Due to us being the magical and majestic beings in many ways and forms that we are just naturally, we’re stronger and more receptive than any other species, specifically the male one. lol

“Don’t ever dim your light to make others in the room comfortable, but humbly shine even brighter.”

-Chántelle Agbro

The average person is going to fear what they don’t understand and you have to understand that that has nothing to do with you, but everything to do with them, so let it be.

You’ll find that when releasing your passion because of its deep roots with love it’s damn near impossible to stop when it starts to flow. This is where it gets tricky all over again because although it’s not your intention, it can and will easily be mistaken for force, which then can put you in a compromising situation.

No one wants that.

It’s okay that some don’t receive what you pour out because it’s a sign that growth is needed and we all can embrace the benefits of improving.

I’ve come to the clear realization that I really just have to embrace this life and all these talents, qualities, traits, and characteristics that GOD himself has instilled in me, unapologetically.

When I do that, nothing will be too much for me.

Nothing will seem as frustrating.

Nothing will seem as confusing.

Believing and trusting that what you prayed for will eventually come to pass trumps all things!

GOD trumps all, as well as his love and his timing.

“Include everything as you embrace this GOD life and you will receive GOD’s everything.”

Mark 11:24

Reminders:

  1. Nothing will happen before its time.
  2. Everything is in divine order.
  3. Be mindful of where you pour your passion.

“When it flowing it’s GOD, when it’s forcing its US.”

And as hard as it can be sometimes, just let GOD flow, trust me!], he got YOU!

Have a phenomenal week babies!

-Love Telley

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† She Carries

“A woman is the full circle. Within her is the power to create, nurture and transform“.

Diane Mariechild

She: any female, all women, all young ladies, all young women and all girls.

Whichever term you prefer to use, the bottom line is that we carry a lot. I’m not going to preach nor lecture to you, but I am going to explain the power of this phrase and its relevance to me. It’s essential to me that everyone reading my blog can see where I am coming from in order to grasp the morals and values that I convey and how I got to where I am today. In the end, it all relates to my purpose and my ventures’.

She carries” has become the emblem of life.

It speaks to everything I’ve been through, go through and will go through on my journey.

From the second that I had to bury one of the only woman on this earth that I had a genuine, close, open, beautiful and loving connection with, I started to carry.“Carry” to the point where a lot of days I didn’t even see the point of life anymore. The thought of being with my grandmother in heaven started to feel more ideal right after losing her, because I didn’t know how I was going to carry on without her.

Question: What were you carrying?

Answer: Sadness, pain, hurt, confusion, hopelessness, hatred, and anger.

All these emotions that began to surface and that I spoke to no one about were the first steps to self-destruction and I didn’t even know it.

I didn’t know how to communicate nor did I want to express my feelings to anyone. Communication just wasn’t my thing, it was nothing personal, so I kept, cried, and thought to myself.

Throughout the years after losing my grandmother, I started high school and then college, where I was introduced to even more situations where I felt I was obligated to carry.

Myth: Strong people are immune to being hurt, especially women because they’re used to it. Or I’m strong enough to handle pain, so I deserve it.

Fact: The strongest people need the most support, comfort, and reassurance that they aren’t alone, especially women!

Starting off I was always referred to as the “sweetest girl” by everyone and then of course, (that was a problem for whatever reason) some people saw that as an opportunity to take advantage. Others saw it as an opportunity to cling to me and no matter what never let me go, (which was very few to the ones that sought to take advantage, as you can imagine).

Misconception: I was weak. I was a push over. She just can’t say no.

Again, I started to carry. I didn’t know how to address the misconceptions of me without turning it all around and becoming into a complete unlikeable and bitter person, so that’s what I did.

There was no balance.

There was no filter.

What you saw or heard, is exactly what you received but to the extreme.

There was no in-between, and I hadn’t noticed that about my self yet, so I kept going along thinking that I was protecting me and being me but in reality I was slowly losing me.

I started to shut down. I carried too much…

Things continued to spiral out of control in my life, and I had self-esteem issues amongst it all. I didn’t know how to handle it. The decision I should or shouldn’t make was literally at the toss of a coin.

“No Chántelle, you have to be strong, you can’t let them see you hurt, upset, mad nor lost”.

My emotions kept growing, I kept piling everything that I had to carry, and it was all harmful. Ugly people, ugly situations, irrational decisions, and dark energies were apart of me. And sadly, nothing that was beautiful, genuine, inspiring, nor comforting seemed to be me anymore. People were there one day, and gone the next. I lost two more of my close cousins within a year (in the midst of it all).

In turn, I was unintentionally hurting people because I was hurting. I shut out anyone that cared and it was all because I carried.

Words were exchanged, with no meaning behind them. Promises were made, then broken. All this baggage to carry and I wouldn’t let anyone get close to the root of it, so it stayed there.

Unbothered.

Untouched.

Just nesting, waiting for the right moment to permanently destroy ME! MY POTENTIAL!  MY SEED!  and MY TREASURE!

But long story short, that moment never came, and thankfully instead self-reflection, self-worth, and self-awareness did.

I realized that my life, my being, and my presence had significance and it should and would be appreciated because it has great value!

I made and make it a point to establish that I am a NURTURER, I am a CONQUEROR, I am UNIQUE, I am a BLESSING and I am a QUEEN!

“Women birth the world. If you give them anything they will take it and transform it into something wonderful, useful, and beneficial”.

Going forward opening my businesses, it is vital to me that each individual that is affiliated with my corporation in any way, shape or form has a clear understanding of this concept:

Despite all that she carries, carried and/or will carry, she will not self-destruct and she will not be consumed but she will overcome and she will excel. “At the right time the sweet fragrance of her life will fill the room, and she will be irresistible”. GOD knew what he was doing when he built this!

We carry the seed that blossoms into something beautiful in every aspect. And just because she carries so much, she deserves even more!

Are you allured yet?

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